Often I find myself reflecting upon relationships that have come and gone in my life. The ones I focus on heavily are the ones that seemed so strong and then disappear completely. We often call the people whom we've known the longest our "best friends." But who are mine? What relationships do I have?
Britney Spears was ridiculed for having a 54 hour marriage. But I just had one of the greatest 60 second relationships ever today (this blog was originally writen in August). No, it wasn't romantic nor physical. But it did touch my heart. I was deciding between 2 bookbags at TJ Maxx today and a little girl walking past me looked up, smiled and waved. I waved back and noticed she had one of those Giant universal remotes in her hands. I commented "Wow! That thing is awesome! I bet you'll never lose that in the couch!" She giggled and asked me if I had one that big. I told her that I did not, but maybe I should because I always lose my little one. She stopped for a moment, looked at the remote while she fiddled to put the battery cover back on. Success. Looked up at me and said "I think that's a pretty good idea." I smiled and thanked her. She paused to see if I would say anything else and before she started to walk away I asked her which bag she liked better. After examining them both for a moment, she pointed to the brown Jansport backpack instead of the sleak black Kennith Cole messenger bag. I looked at the bag, looked back and her and said "You're right, this is the one." She smilied proudly and skipped away to find her mom. That is what makes my world go round.
Now I look at my long-term relationships. First at those that are no more. Sarah Hutjens- I have no idea what she's up to. We were close as could be and then we just fizzled out... distance. Amanda Baszynski- moved just to the next suburb, but long before technology and now, no idea. I didn't have many if any close friends in high school so, that's out. College, most of those relationships were based around partying...Those that stuck: there are VERY few. Steph, Stevie, Amanda, Ashley and Becca... I look at each of these relationships and try to figure out what has allowed them to stay tight even though distance, time and life chapters have all taken their tole... it's kind of amazing. The ways I met each of them astounds me... I just hope that each of them is still on my "bests" list in 10, 20, 30 years...
So what's more important? How do we weigh our relationships? Number of phone calls per month? Texts per day? Facebook comments? Maybe for some people.
Some may have lots of friends whom they've been close to and will remain so forever... but that's just not how my life has been. My friends don't really talk much or often, but when we do it's on a crazy-deep level. I just don't have them here with me... or blowing up my phone. My life has lasted this long because of the little smiles and giggles I share with my "single serving friends." Strangers amaze me.
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